On Plastic Surgery....

I have been remiss in addressing a hot topic in Orange County—Plastic Surgery. Many times I have sat at the computer wanting to write about it; yet, everything I had to say was cliché and malicious.

When I first moved to OC, I joked with the guy I was seeing about getting some “work” done—boob job, butt implants, tummy tuck—his response was to not mess with perfection.

Later, I found out you can finance anything that is not covered by insurance. During my first trip to my Primary Care Physician, I discovered that in addition to the ordinary Internist things she also offered reconstructive procedures. Following that I went to my OB/GYN who offers Laser Body Sculpting. I was left with the question, “Is there any doctor who just practices what they went to medical school to do?” In fact, one day while sitting in the waiting room I overheard the nurse say, “Maybe he can throw in a tummy tuck during your C-Section.” I guess it makes sense, with a pregnancy wrecked body you might turn to the person who delivered your baby to restore your physique.

This weekend as I participated in a course called Celebrating Men and Sex, it struck me how much unnecessary and uniformed effort women put into their appearance. Many topics were addressed including what men find attractive about women, one of which is curves. Men like that we have curves.

Ironically, I spent most of my life avoiding having or covering up my curves. My late teens and early twenties were spent trying to be as thin as possible; which is the anti-thesis of curves. My friends and I went to great lengths to avoid hips or butt including, for some, eating disorders. Looking back years later, our vanity drove us to look like boys with bumps on our chests. Additionally I wore baggy clothes covering up any possible shape I had while accentuating my best asset—my legs.

Even recently, I gained five pounds and was lamenting my hips and butt getting bigger. For whatever reason, my ideal body is straight rather than round: flat not curvy. Hence the thought of ass implants seems incomprehensible to me.

As for my breast, they are small but perky. Also, most men I speak with dislike fake boobs; hence, I have never had a desire or need to augment them.

Today, a panel of men came in to the course to answer various questions. One question addressed “What do you love most about a women’s body?” The answer surprised me. They said things about vibrant smiles, caring eyes and posture. Each man claiming he was not an ass, leg or boob man till finally one said—and all others agreed—“I am a leg man because that is the one body part you cannot get plastic surgery on.”

They just want the natural us. Consider you are not getting “work” done for men but for other woman. Men do not care that much. They love us the way we are. For men it is not the breasts, ass and the like which attracts men. They crave our curves and our confidence.

On a personal note, I think plastic surgery looks silly. Tits too large for your frame look stupid. Nose jobs coupled with collagen in your lips makes you look like an alien. I am not opposed to reconstructive surgery or, maybe, a little botox; however, there is such a thing as too much work. Just know that men will love and desire you are you are: curves and all. Confidence goes a long way.

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